After all the scenes discuss
• Were any of the peacemakers successful? Why?
• Did an apology take place?
• Did anyone admit he/she was wrong?
• What part did listening/not listening have?
The family has a long-standing feud with their neighbour –
let them decide what this is about in each group or give them one
of the following suggestions.
• the neighbour's children play loud music late into the
• they think the neighbour has been telling lies about them
• something has gone missing and they are convinced it was
taken by one of the family next door.
• the neighbours are different in some way.
The neighbour also needs to decide why he/she is coming
to this house in spite of the feud.
Ask them now to repeat their quarrel scenes. This time the argument
is cut short by the neighbour's knock on the door. What happens?
Did the family forget their own quarrel and pull together? Why?
Did the visit of the neighbour bring an end to the feud between
him/her and the family? If so how?
If the feud is still on in some groups, discuss with the whole
class what it would have taken to end it.
After this exercise, draw up with the class a list of things
which help in the process of peacemaking.
Finally, encourage them to think through whether there are situations
in their own lives which are similar to those acted out in the topic.
There may be some simple and practical way by which they can initiate
the peaceful end to a quarrel or feud they are involved in, but
this should be written down individually rather than discussed in
class unless there is some common involvement.